Song, I can relate to this. We messed up. And our wives left us because, after trying so hard for such a long time, they gave up. They quit the marriage. We didn't realize the damage we were doing at the time, and we lost our wives...and our families were broken apart as a result of it. That's the reality. Sugar-coating any of it won't help us...we need to be honest and shoulder what we've done; apologize; learn from it; and make the necessary changes in ourselves regardless!
Antlers....did you do drugs? were you an alcoholic? did you beat your wife?
Ya know...I admire that you...and others here...accept what 'contributions' we made here. I've seen happily married people endure much worse and stay together.
Too much 'woe is me'. OK....OK....you weren't an Oscar winning husband. Quoting David Cunningham:
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You were working with the tools that you had at the time. You've learned and grown. Don't look back and continue to see this as failure or YOU WILL FAIL AGAIN IN THE FUTURE
antlers (hijacking)...that comment sounds too defeatist..too 'sorry for myself'......did you wife do ANYTHING wrong?????
Wives/husbands...forgive. They talk. They discuss their issues. They 'work at a marriage'.
Both of you....stop blaming yourselves. They chose this...not you.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
