INN the pain is extreme for the first 3-6 months but It does ease up the most important thing for you is to find a way to get thru it sucessfully therapy is a must or spiritual couseling church or religion helps if you have a friend who will listen and not judge you that helps too any support groups in your area that may help alanon is all over the world and the program is similar to db as far as detaching snd letting go og toxic people(alcoholic or not)
as for you H, he is confused probably in replay and running how old is he? and you? their behavior makes little sense so it is impoissible to figure it out In the end, you will see the total destruction of his life and it will be clearer to you, his crises for now just slow down take care of you let him go you will find peace peace
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