It is true Pup; and Ive read a BIT if your sitch, tho I dont know it all, and i think a few things about you. just from what ive saw and admittedly its not a lot.

I think you are a hardcore man with hardcore views and this has shaken you, to your roots; and I think you need to take a step back a little a realise its probably more about your wife and her depression/resentment than it is actually YOU...

you actually seem a lot like me in male form, and if thats true then theres a lot of problems there bc if your like me, you are one of those people who hardline too fast and assume others should be smart enough to do the same and be on the same chapter. The problem is, hardlining too much on your partner who MAY HAVE BEEN hardlined a hell of a lot from you, in the PAST, will run from that because its the same old behavior as always. ie you havent changed.

They will throw up their hands an say "your still the same" and say "you still always think your right" and they will say (maybe not to YOU "even if you ARE right cant I be wrong for once and see how that feels".

Keep in your mind this at all times (and god knows I need to). your W probably knows your right and probably knows your views are valid and probably knows shes done wrong by you... but after all these years might not care much bc shes sick to death of you always being 'right'.

your a smart man, your clever and you have a lot of logic going on. If someone is rebelling and doing everything wrong that is obviously wrong, is telling them that working out for you, or just making it even worse - its called "defiance".

Women cannot defy as outwardly as men for the most part so can choose to do so passively agressively by doing everything wrong deliberately to show you that your not in control.

SOMETIMES, we have to let go and say "do what want then" but actually follow thru with that and actually have the strength of mind and will to bite our tongues and cheeks and hurt our heads by smiling thru the defiance. think of it as you would a teenager who done everyting you hated. do you still love them???? of course. you hate the tattoo you hate the new bf you hate the peircings; but what is harping on that going to do or get you, its gonna make it WORSE. its ATTENTION. how much ATTENTION are YOU giving bad behavior????

i dont know it all im only saying bc I know how i was, and i know how you are and I are, in similarities. if you have no idea what 'passive agressive' is then you will find out. its about teaching that person a lesson in doing absolutely what they hate most bc you CAN. I think your W might be acting out lot against you but its just a hunch so IGNORE me if im wrong.. god knows I am enough.

keep in your mind that acting out is a form of love... we dont bother acting out to anyone we dont care less about. REACTION is probably something you shouldnt even bother showing. try laughing. laughing at someone is probably one of the biggest wakeups you can give.

even when you really dont feel like laughing at all....

also keep in your mind that YOUR peace should be coming first, your peace in your mind and yourself and your very life. Start becoming very protective of it and making a forcefield around it. NO ONE should be able to shake you up, if you dont choose to be shaken anymore. you dont need to make statements about it, actions speak louder than words....

you are a strong man good luck to your W finding a man as strong as you... thats a compliment. take some comfort in the fact that a WEAKER man is ALWAYS gonna be weaker. And shes going to have to live with that then. Once with a strong partner its a real letdown to realise you cant stand toe to toe with them and theres no challenge...

may you find a new challenge ahead if it doesnt work out, who will adore you for your strength and not need to rebel. May I FIND a man so strong.

let it be xoxoxo blessings

When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.