Came over, didn't quite give him the welcome that I wanted to…came into lower level saw son, hugged him I was on couch didn't say anything, finally said hi, H didn't respond, said aren't you going to say hi or something "hi or something" was response…
Showed photos from bear hunt to son, did not ask me if I wanted to see them, which was fine, played with son for awhile, watched a football game. I went over to play with son turned around and H had gone upstair. Me and son went upstairs--H was going through his mail made the commente "you're opening my mail again" made lunch for son and H. Son laid down for nap H laid with him till he was a sleep, came into living room and said "I'm leaving" I said what? He said "I'm leaving" I said you can't leave you haven't seen son for weeks. So he sat on the couch. I got up went and sat on his lap and gave him a hug and he said why are you doing this? I said I missed you. He said he didn't want to make things more complicated, I said so and he said do you? Lots of eye contact. Didn't respond and then he put his arms around me and we hugged. I told him I still cared about him and he said "I know you do" he carries me into bedroom and we ML for about an hour. Afterward we're laying there and he says "so after you saw the meat in the freezer why didn't you call?" I said I was waiting for you to call and couldn't figure out what happened when he didn't call. Maybe a mistake, but oh well. He also said he made a lot of noise and didn't I hear him? I said no I didn't. He then took a shower and got dressed, son got up, told son to go get pictures from bear hunt so that I could look at them. They are at the park now.
H also said that it was a year ago today that OW's buried her H and it's also her birthday. I did ask how OW was doing and he said "not good" He is with us right now and not with OW I don't know if that's a good sign or not.
He also asked what son had for breakfast, said McD's H says why couldn't you make him something, just like you couldn't make me any meals, I just laughed. I also said you take son to McD's for breakfast all the time--oh that's right I have to remember this "don't do as I do, do as I say" I didn't say this to him, but was thinking it.
Are there any babysteps in any of today so far? It also feels like he wasn't gone for over two weeks, seems like just yesterday. I wonder of "things being complicated" means he wants to uncomplicate them which is what I should have asked him????
