Any thoughts on why picked her to have an affair with?They had a 2yr. relationship 15 yrs.ago we knew her from them working together....she left to work elsewhere never heard from her for 8-9 yrs.in Nov.1995 I found out they had had a 2 yr relationship.He literally had 2 families. I found out.he confessed.and we worked it out. the next 13 yrs were hard but we worked at it...was good.felt we were meeting each other half way.. Mom dies 11/06.....loses job of 14 yrs.03/07 06/07 starts new job meets her again.P/a starts...dad dies 11/07 the bomb drops tells me WHEN I SAW HER ALL THE OLD FEELINGS CAME BACK I love you but I am not in love with you.... I read and read in here trying to find someone who has been in a similar situation....someone I can relate to.Could they of been in love so much he thought he would give it one more try....I am sure she has done nothing but validate his feelings. how unhappy he was.how I bithced all the time.how we never had any money.how our kids will get over it...since her kids did well w/o their dad and our will too, kids get over things blah blah blah. today is my birthday and I am sure he wont call me to say H/B Why would I want some like this back into my life...not only did he cheat on me twice but twice with her...what is so damn special about her.And he lies so much everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie....He looks and acts so happy..so unfair...we have nothing but memories..and heartache.... I dont know this man he has become I dont like him very much..kinda scarry looking, if you ask me' But in my heart I know he is in there somewhere... MLC is very real....Jerry had alcoholic parents...very strict father..more strict on him than the other kids...but then he was the one who always did things to get into trouble Dad a very stern military man... mom a very unhappy alcoholic military wife. Not much love from them except the kids they loved each other.... Mom and Dad too drunk to care..she drank all day he was gone to work on the base..come home and get drunk..maybe he was unhappy too. Dont get me wrong these 2 had lots of friends.but I think they were all drunks... Maybe this is where the MLC is coming from from what I read in here. But I will...I wont say anything Snodderly....not one word..he is making it so difficult for me to keep praying for him.for his return..he just doesnt care ......what I see in him is a selfish lying,know more than everybody,arrogant,big kid attitude,money spending,spineless,eyes that are really alien like,show off,it could go on and on... WHY HER AGAIN??? I wish it would of been someone else.She knows and knew all about us.... Snodderly... ever heard of a husband with 2 affairs with the same woman with in his 25 yr marriage.I want to write to her kids and tell them what kind of a mother they have...that she is a homewrecker...broke up a family...I know where she left these kids of hers...one is only 15 still going to school and living with her older brother who is 25-28 yrs.old.I know where the live... the address.. I could easily write them something to tell of their beloved MOM..she is not what they think she is... Snodderly you have been in here a very long time, I am sure there isnt anything you havent seen or heard in here... Please..any thoughts to put my mind to rest...anything? WHY HER AGAIN???
