Your sitch has hope. It doesn't matter what anyone says. He has to figure his cr*p out. If we are pissed or fed up or don't think it is fair, well, we have our own recourse, right? It is up to you how long or how much you are willing to hold on to a space in your heart for him. I know it isn't "fair" but we could bail, we could take off, or get boyfriends or split custody 50/50 if we don't want the lion share. We choose to be the stable ones because we are capable and that is who we are. And, to alleviate the resentment and feeling of being scr*wed, we have to only do what we are comfortable doing and not be martyrs and not give them guidance that we can't accept getting zero acknowledgement for. You get my drift?
This was really helpful...as it always is when you remind me that I DO have choices in this...and I choose to be the stable one. I CHOOSE to be the one with the lion's share because I would have it no other way..and I CHOOSE integrity, honesty, and BRAINS! Thanks AK.
