I thought in my own mind I was correct in not informing her of what I was doing. The trouble is, once a row ensues all reason and clear thinking seems to go out of the window. The problem I have is knowing the children are there, and when my W is constantly haranging me the children get upset, and then I feel I need to nip their sadness in the bud by telling my W what I am up to. I just seem to be unable to deal with situations correctly and I end up allowing my W to dictate the conversation.
The other thing that bothers me is the fact she can quite happily argue with the children present. This shows a complete lack of sensitivity towards the children and I cannot understand how she can do this.
I texted her this morning asking her if I could see the children today, as it would also allow her to get on with her work. She sent back an angry text saying I had the opportunity to organise something weeks ago, (though I might have been working)and I did not bother. She went on 'you are just like your mum and dad, leave everything to the last minute.
More anger yet I feel I am doing really well with the children and yet I get the impression my W still thinks I am not prioritising them. I feel so frustrated as nothing I do seems to be be recognised or commented on. Her negativity towards me seems endless which is really draining for me.
What do you think?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
