Took the day off yesterday and golfed with a friend of mine, we had a great time and great day, did 27 holes! We're not that good, but we do have a good time.
Regarinding the new title, the first few lines of this song are in now way related to my sitch!
I think I have plans for Sunday and will plan on leaving on doing my thing, need new fall clothes.
I'm wondering if anyone has suggestions on how to bring up the visitation thing with H. I want to put it on him to come with a solution. Part of me doesn't want to make him commit to anything, I don't know why, maybe this was one of my problems with our M. "If you aim at nothing, you'll hit it everytime" which is what I did a lot of, it was easy to not to ask him to do things or agree to things because then I'd have nothing to complain about and it also made me feel crappy which was how I was used to feeling....does that make sense? This will be a big step for me if I can get H to agree to a visitation...it will also make me feel really good and will also allow me to plan my week. So feel the fear and do it anyway?
At this BB a lot of poeple talk about having a hard time with trust and forgiveness of the S once they're back home. Right now, as you know he's not home, but I can forgive him and I think I would be able to trust him again. Did anyone feel like that before S decided to recomit to the M again? And then once they were back everything changed?
Quote: P.S. I'm rather liking LL's idea of being dressed to GO when H gets there on Sunday. It WOULD be a 180, wouldn't it?
I don't know if it would be a 180, because I have left before or had plans when I knew he'd be there. A 180 would be for me to stay away for the whole day and not come back till midnight. It will piss him off royally if I did this and I don't want to do it either. If I'm in a happy upbeat mood, "act as if," show him I've been moving on, not let him get to me, to take any negatives towards me and make it a positive back and really listen to what he's saying and be emphatic, compassionate and supportive--now that's a 180 becuase it's the total opposite of the old me.
