How do I not let this control my every thought?

[PositivelyMommy]

Travis, you have such a good attitude already. Besides, it's early days yet.

Your W is still in lala fantasyland. She will be in on a hard fall. Now she may show that to you in future or she may choose to hide it because she is ashamed of her behavior now.

But I would bet you she is in justification mode. That is why she is acting like you are so horrible to her, it justifies her reason for leaving.

Let it be. You know the truth. You were there.

You don't need to alter her POV to prove yourself to be correct. You don't need anyone's validation anymore. We all believe you here.

So. Let her live out her fantasy dream and let her fall flat on her face. It's something she will have to live through, the journey she has chosen. You will see the signs. The honeymoon period will surely pass. Then she won't be acting so happy. In fact, she might actually get depressed (I see it in my H now).

Don't let it affect you. Let it slide off your back. Make yourself waterproof.