How do I not let this control my every thought?

[Travis]

PM,
Thanks for the advice. I'm really trying hard not to be bitter. I am like so many on here that it was a total shock to me. It's only been 2 1/2 months and I'm still so bitter. Not to her or in front of the boys. Just bitter.
Yes, she had good qualities. Great qualities. And I'm at fault for not appreciating those qualities enough or expressing my appreciation enough about those qualities. But a guy that she's known for less than three months that's been divorced three times? What makes me the maddest is that she doesn't even have the decency to just say, yeah, i did it. She is so hateful and vindictive right now that I can't believe she wouldn't at least tell me for the joy she would get out of seeing the pain in my face.
We don't talk at all, basically. I call or she calls if it's about the boys. Other than that it's one or two e-mails a week on legal matters.
I'll get over the bitterness in time, and I really don't want anything bad for her, but it's just the way she's gone about the whole mess. Most of it is totally by the script, but this is not her. I refuse to believe I was an idiot for 11 years. She says she's been unhappy for a long time. If that's true then she should be in acting, because she would win an Emmy. Until two weeks before the discovery of all the texts and phone calls to OM our lives were a little strained, I switched to a new job from one I'd had almost 8 years, but besides that I thought things were on the up.
I know my posts are long, but this is where I come when I really want to let it out. I'm tired of talking to friends and family, they're probably tired of hearing it, and I don't talk to my WAW. I've been doing better on focusing on me, it's just with the new job that is the second hardest thing I've taken on next to my D, and the added responsibilities with house and kids, I feel like I'm trying to get 24 hours worth of things done in a 12 hour day.
I'll get there because I have to. There is no choice. And I truly believe that in the long run I'll be a better person because of this. Thanks for your thoughts.