On the blended family front....what a coincidence, my oldest stepdaughter called me earlier today because she misses me....she wants to grab a bite to eat with me and her sister (stepdaughter 2) tonight ....how is that? So I have been there and done that and it was great.....I love them both almost as much as my own D8.....but I do not have the energy to do it again. The new GF will have to accept that.....I am at an age where I think I can have a meaningful relationship without assuming any more responsibilities. I am very sorry but this is how I feel today. I do not know why I am apologizing....some may opine that I am not really in love with new GF if i am not willing to live together.....in that case, I am not sure that I am. I do not consider the new GF to be an F Friend and I would want it to develop into something more but not into another marriage...with or wothout the papers.
Hi John I forgot you had the blended family bit, but am guessing you entered that m with no children of your own?
I can see you have given this much thought and not been carried away on a wave of euphoria. Good for you. Many woman want the same as you. I guess it may have something to do with dare I say it -age, although I have no idea in your case or g/f's, you have a young daughter so maybe not so old. Why must you be willing to move in if you love her? has this been talked about. Honesty is the only way to go,imo, maybe b/c lies hurt me more than anything and I have always valued honesty and truth. Good luck, for now just enjoy the what is.
Hi John I forgot you had the blended family bit, but am guessing you entered that m with no children of your own?
I can see you have given this much thought and not been carried away on a wave of euphoria. Good for you. Many woman want the same as you. I guess it may have something to do with dare I say it -age, although I have no idea in your case or g/f's, you have a young daughter so maybe not so old. Why must you be willing to move in if you love her? has this been talked about. Honesty is the only way to go,imo, maybe b/c lies hurt me more than anything and I have always valued honesty and truth. Good luck, for now just enjoy the what is. I think thats great your s/d call and want to meet up, why wouldn't they I guess they see you as a Dad. Hope you had a great time.
Yes I did have a great time and we decided to meet at least once a month. I told them that they had to organize it with each other and ther significant others and i would make myself available. Next outing is scheduled for my apt.
What in the heck are you worrying about? Geez.. you just started getting to know her not too long ago. Many times what you fear is exactly what comes to pass.
What speaks volumes is how your step-daughters keep in touch with you and how much you care for them.
Your current thoughts about your new relationship remind me of something I learned with golf.. "If you think, you stink." And the world does not want a smelly Giovanni...
Gyps, you are great. I make my living reading people. I think I do a pretty good job.....including with my ex wife. I knew something was up the day it happened...so what am i fearing exactly? I do not fear anything...I do know what I want and do not want however. I also kno where this may go and I am not going there....so maybe I stink a little, that is why they invented deodorant. On the golf front, I do not know where you are getting your "instruction". I can tell you that it is extremely important to think your way around a golf course. The only time you do not think is those 5 seconds when you are executing your shot. By the way gyps, i am always thinking.....but you are right.....sometimes too much!
You caught me.. I was talking about those critical 5 seconds, in golf that is.
I always marveled at the folks who could read the future based on a few actions and make decisions on those projections. Me.. I was more of a "go with the flow" with a "slam on the brakes, holy cow!" moments.
Am I rambling? If you're upfront with where you are, what your boundaries are and you treat each other with mutual respect.. what's the problem?
By the way D8 was honoured tonight as the top academic student of her school in front of the school board. With all she has been through in the last year or so, she is amazing.
So we watched a nice show with D8, XW and my mom. XW put on a little weight and was wearing extra high heels...pretty funny stuff. Anyhow, since my mom (or anyone else for that matter) does not know the intricacies of our situation, they still get along well.
So tommorow I am taking the afternoon off as is GF....on the menu...afternoon delight and she wants me to help her pick out a couple of bathing suits.
The weekend will include a golf game, an evening (probably late supper) with GF and a horse riding lesson with D8. Who knows what else will come up......on we go!
I bet you are so proud of your daughter as I am of my son now. I got an email from his teacher today saying that dibels testing had him at 200 oral words a minute and the norm for his class was 80.
Somehow I am guessing that riding a horse is high on D8's list of fun things to do besides being with good old dad.
