thanks forthe reminder mnt. it is true...and that is why I AM taking the DB technique and the high road. the thing is...should I be worried that he ISN'T blaming me for the R problems???!! He says stuff like it is not you...you have done nothing wrong...I know it is all my fault. and then proceeds with the seperation. so, there is never going to be the day when he "realizes" it is not my fault...and comes back...???
Words darling, just words. He is telling you what he needs to for reasons you will never know. And, it is very possible that he is wise enough to know that this is HIS problem and perhaps, he will sort his stuff out and come back. Please try not to dissect his words. You don't know what they mean.
