Stand down, soldier. You need to take a really deep breath. Get the Divorce Recovery book and read it. Don't do anything to initiate contact just yet. Let her have a little time in her head without you there.
Tell us more about your sitch so we can be more helpful. Why did you separate? Did she ask you to leave or did you choose to? What are some of the issues you are aware of.
Frequently, the one left behind is blamed for every bad thing that has ever happened. It is so very hard to do, but you need to simply validate it. Don't argue with her right now. It seems unfair and frankly it is, but this is your reality now.
Sorry you had to come here, but this is the best place to be at this time in your life. Strap on your big-boy briefs, as this is not something that will have a quick fix. We all hope for them, but it didn't get messed up in a short period of time and it will take time to resolve.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
