I have a question for you. My W admitted having a PA in Nov of '07. She didn't admit it until Sept. of '08, when I basically told her that there was no other explanation for what was going on. For a few weeks we were communicating then she basically disappeared. She's been very distant since then. She swears there is no contact with the OM, but I'm pretty sure that isn't the case. It's nothing I can prove, but the circumstantial evidence is pretty compelling. I know that Puppy argues that without full disclosure and openness, the chance of a relapse is pretty high. (Please correct me if I am reading you incorrectly). What is the allure of continuing contact? Is it the need they meet? Is it the secrecy of everything?
I've read what you have posted here and I'm about at the point of the ultimatum. She won't file because that makes her the bad guy, but at some point don't you own up to your actions? Maybe that was two questions.
