Yea, over time the marriage stress started to get to me along with some other life stresses. I would get impatient with my daughter. And on three ocassions I yelled at her. I could tell you when, where we were standing and what we were wearing that's how much they are imbeded in my head. NO 6-8 year old deserves to be yelled at especially my daughter by me.
Once wife and I seperated a lot of stress dissapeared. One of the things i did was to sit down with daughter and talk about those instances. I appologized and made her a promise that I would never yell at her again if she would promise me that she wold listen to me if I say a key phrase.
she brings it up often and I haven't lost my temper with her since the seperation.
I have told my wife once or twice that the divorce helped open my eyes to a lot of things. Other than being divorced when I won't want to be it really has improved every other aspect of my life..... and still working on it LOL!
Hey Kenn, Was wondering how you are doing??? I was going to post to your thread. I'm doing very well - thanx for asking!
Well, No word from my H since Tuesday, when he emailed me back saying last weekend was the worst weekend ever. Guess, I scared him away ... or ..... he has sh*t to deal with.
My weekend has been good. Been keeping busy. Went window shopping yesterday & then to the home improvement store to get some bricks. Got about 80 of them. Today, I took out the old boards around my strawberry patch & replaced them with the bricks. Bought some flowers today & will be planting tomorrow.
Been looking at a few internet dating sights in the eve. Very strange. Have never dated much. The men I have dated, I first got to know at a club (I used to frequent) - not so much anymore. Oh & 1 guy I dated, I worked with ..... bad idea. So it all seems so frightening, not me & oddly, not looking forward to it. Maybe things will change. No worries though.
God, I'm such a hermit & a home body ..... weird, that I enjoy it this way.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
You sound like you have been doing a lot of yard work lately. That can be fun.
It is so weird for me. I told a friend today that I only have three really good friends right now but I don't feel like I have enough time to do anything. Been so hectic. That's good. My life is consumed with stuff.
Sorry husband is so hit and miss. That has to be frustrating.
I think the internet dating isn't so bad. I like what you all said when I asked. Start looking to be friends and all will work out. I think I will start when life gets more stable. It is hard to meet people if you aren't in a huge social environment. The Computer dating helps there. Thing to remember is to keep it fun.
People I know have mostly good experiences.
Just remember that the guys (or at least some like me) are just as confused as the women. Like I said I had a woman give me her number and then not answer when I called. Now I am struggling with calling back. I figure one more phone call and then I am done because I don't want to feel like a stalker LOL! I am not sure anyone has the right answer.....
Yep, I understand about your phone# deal. I would only give it 1 more chance as well. Maybe she found out you were M. M men have always been "off limits" for me. Actually, I did seriously date 1 M man (his D was just months from being final). He was bi-polar, and well, it was just a bad R.
Strange , how many of them men on the dating sites state they are hard working & know how to treat a woman. Then I wonder, if you know how to treat a women - why don't you have one??? Ok, that's me just being critical & cynical.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
"Hi, Looking for a man who is serious about treating his woman right? No gimicks, I am the real deal. I am a hard working, loving guy who takes his relationships serious... Look at my record 0 and 1. Take a chance on me...please, pretty please?"
So now i have to go back to the drawing board...dang it to he$$....
I 'll run my draft by you when I get a new idea LOL!
All joking aside (well not really) my friend was talking to me about the guy my wife was interested in. He said, "look the guy has to be a loser or else he wouldn't be single at this age". I let it sink in for a minute, put the biggest smile on my face and said,"I'm single at this age....dumas!!!!"
On the serious side... sure you do! You found your husband and he wanted to marry you.
I think something in my case is that you kind of float into the complacency mode and just expect your partner to be there with you. AND quite frankly there are a whole lot of couples out there that are still together that are in the same place as my wife and I were (mid life, kid in elementary school, balancing careers, etc) They are making it. I am sure they aren't living the exciting life they planned when they were 20 something but they also haven't packed up and left their partner either???
My wife has numerous friends that have labeled her as "a grass is greener kind of person". Their words not mine. I just was willing to accept her selfishness because I loved other things about her. There is no doubt that my wife's personality (selfish, self centered, and desire to have attention) played a big part in her deciding to leave at this stage of life.
So ...yes I wish I could go back and change some of the ways I treated her...BUT if she wasn't so self absorbed then I kind of think I would hav been given that chance.
Wow.. how things (in the head) change over time LOL!
Now on to the more pressing matters...I think if you shorten it to - Blondes have more fun, that's why I.....
I gurantee you will get a lot more inquiries LOL! Guys love the mystery and there is plenty of mystery in that. Heck, I'll bet someone contacts you just to see if you fell asleep while you were entering your profile.... steer away from those guys, they have no sense of humor LOL!
