I've shared lots of my faults with her over the years. Porn. Financial mistakes. Poutiness/"F-this-ness." Moodiness. Lack of leadership in my family.
I've spoken them to her many, many more times than she's ever shared her faults with me, and I've asked her for forgiveness for them.
I've also complimented her on HER good qualities, oh, I'd say 100x more often than she's complimented me on mine. I have tried to build her up -- most likely, to a fault. I've enabled some of her worst qualities (and she has enabled some of mine).
All I can do is share my faults. I can't help it if her decision two years ago makes her feel ashamed. That's simply the consequences for the poor choice she made, and there's not a whole lot I can do about that now.
