I realized something by watching my emotions today.
This is a healthy thing to do. Part of my therapy is to set aside a time period, step back, and watch my emotions, feelings, and thoughts drift by. Don't attach. Just watch. You'd be surprised what you learn.
This doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't experience those feelings and thought. It's only an exercise to clear the pond of ripples so you can see the reflection more clearly.
Originally Posted By: Thinker
It is the fear that makes me want to snoop or otherwise control her and prompts me to sometimes think about calling it off and leaving her first.
Yes, I get this urge too sometimes. I'm not afraid of being alone so much as W finding someone new and the feelings of rejection that would go with it. This might be a good time to watch those emotions float by again. What are your thoughts and feelings? Anger? The urge to get even? The desire to start over with a clean slate and leave that other life behind? Because those are mine.
I can't suggest a path for you but you're doing something healthy by watching those feelings and thoughts and with it will come appropriate action from a clear and uncluttered mind.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
