It goes beyond the kids though. When she spewed on me a few weeks back it was about how her family likes me more than her. She made mention of the only reason her Mom gave her attention was because of me and the kids.
When she was a kid (10-11 years old), she intentionally jumped out of a tree to hurt herself to get attention. I don't think she got the response she wanted so she started to internalize everything.
She was the middle of 3 girls. Her older sister was very rebellious so she got all the bad attention. Her younger sister was the baby so she got all the good attention. My wife was lost in the shuffle. She was a tomboy because that enabled her to get attention from her Dad.
I think this deals more with her feeling like she's that age again and she desperately wants her Mom's attention and she's not getting it. Her issues are right there at the surface but she doesn't know how to deal with it.
