Thanks Puppy,

I appreciate the response. In my case if I state "Because that's what I've decided would be best for me" it would be construed as selfish which would be 'more of the same' as far as she is concerned.

I will use "Because that's what I have decided would be best for me AND the children"

This takes away any selfish aspect and puts the focus on MY needs and the childrens.

Bomb dropped: 19/12/08
Me:48
WAW:41
D:10
S:6
Married: 15 years