Can folks give advice on the tactic of exposure? W is real tight with her immediate family - I think most would think she is crazy for getting into this mess. Her mom is her best friend and would be devastated. Only thing is that the news would actually affect her (mother in law's) health because she is older and is the type that worries over everything. If she gets sick b/c I exposed the sitch re: daughter, my W, it could backfire big time.
Given all that, the threat of exposure alone seems like a good position, but I don't know when to use it. Please help.
