Not sure IC can 'change' a person. It can only happen IF they realize they have a certain problem and humbly ask for help overcoming it and the C is very competent, most are not.
Of course. I think you have to have those elements, the willingness to change and work on yourself, and a good IC helps with that. Mrs. Puppy has said she's willing to work on herself, and if her IC isn't helping, I'm sure she could find another. I've been to about 5 MC and IC now, and I would say at least one of them was not good. The other 4 were good: ranging from excellent to ok. And sometimes they can be good, but maybe you don't have a personality fit. My H is seeing a military type guy (he says) and I'm seeing a more motherly, nurturing type and we both feel comfortable with them. Karen
