Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

Yesterday was another one of those head scratchers. Most of the day was normal and routine. The real story starts when we went to a neighbor’s house for their daughter’s 1st birthday party. Neighbors do not now of SIT and so we go sort of doing the “pretending all is well” thing.

The afternoon/evening went normal, enjoying the party as they always throw a good one. We all are enjoying some drinks, the S is having fun and being a good boy. At some point, there were two chairs and I was sitting in one and WAW was next to me in the other. S can in and said he wanted to sit down, but not in our laps. WAW said he could have her chair and she would sit in Daddy’s lap, which she did! WTF? Man, I miss the days when she would do that, and now she does it...

So the rest of the evening was fun, we even got into a squirt gun fight and WAW got into it with me and S. It was a good time. We went home, got S to bed, and just watched some TV to wind down the night. WAW went to bed and I watched a bit of TV and followed 10-15 min. later.

I lay down in bed, and I realize she is crying/sobbing. I sat up and sort of put my hand on her shoulder and said something to the effect of “this is all hard on us all.” She sat up and just really started sobbing uncontrollably. I just put my arm around her and really didn’t say anything. After a few min. she settled down and feel back asleep.

I guess I am wondering if I am seeing signs of a slight turn. She had built this plan and put into motion her “walk away.” Now 6 weeks after she dropped this on me, and she has seen me act/react in unexpected ways, I wonder if she is starting to doubt and feel guilty. This week in particular I have seen some hints of this as I have posted here.

So what do I do? Do I talk about last night at all today? Take this as a chance to open dialogue or just not even bring it up? Or should I just keep doing what I am doing and wait for her to bring things up? (I think that is the right plan.)

I hope this is a sign of things working, but maybe not. Again, tough to read into the mind of a WAW (or anyone) and try to figure it all out.