My W dropped the bomb in Dec '08 so it is now 5 months since and she has not wavered in the slightest. She filed for D in March '09 and has met with a lawyer to finalise childrens visitation and financial split. My close friends or I do not know of anybody that has wanted to divorce so quickly, especially after 15 years, she wanted no counselling, nothing except as quick a divorce as possible.
To be honest I have validated her, done the wrong things, given it too her on too many occasions without too much resistance from me for fear of upsetting her in case she ever wanted to come back. I have been told I have to 'man up', get a backbone because she does not respect me, possibly shows contempt and does not see me as competiotion to OP. To compound this, I have been out of work since the end of March so again I do not think she sees me as an attractive option to OP. I am lacking in self esteem and confidence at the moment which I do not show her, I just try to be myself and not to be downbeat.
I find it hard to believe under these circumstances she is keeping her options open, do you think even with these circumstances this is the case?
She looks at me with anger, and talks to me like a business colleague or friendly neighbour at best. No smiles, no positivity, just scowls and any opportunity to have an argument. It is very confusing and to me highly unlikely she would consider coming back in my opinion.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
