It's the end of the long holiday weekend, it's ended early for me as I have to go to work on Monday but W and D7 have the day together to do some girly activities. We all spent time together this weekend and had the family time W requested.
Gettting back to Sandi's previous post I guess from all the stuff I write it looks like I am doing all of the work in this M (and believe me it feels like it), but from W point of view I guess she feels like she is working on the M just as much but in her own way. I think to 180 this whole thing around I would need to put both feet out of the door and be walking away into the distance. I keep tip toeing towards this but I keep pulling back, one day maybe one day I'll make a move and go for good.
I think W would be an ideal case for some professional help and I'm sure she'd be able to keep some analyst in work for hours but as Sandi says I can't force her to seek help she has to do that on her own.
W had been off the computer for a while but she went on on Friday and joined FB, she has one friend and it's not me lol., I think I'll take the steve277 approach on this and let it ride for a while cos the situation looked quite comical from my POV.
Anyway back to us, we visited one of our friends over the weekend, the H is away for 6 months working in the middle east and the W is struggling to cope with the kids. D18 has hit the rebel button and has become uncontrollable, D10 and S7 are playing up and there is a distinct lack of respect from kids to the parent. The bottom line is the dysfunction from the kids stems from W & H having their problems, many times they would have seen H being verbally abusive to W and now he is away, they seem to be taking it upon them selves to keep this up. W and I talked about this and the need for two parents to be functioning correctly for the kids to be respectful manageable. I think a penny may have dropped there for her.
Last night at W cuddle up to me, instead of me seeking her out, we spoke about the above and one or two other things, oh W mention the no sex at the moment was becuase she still has her woman's problem, she's gonna see the doc again about it and hopefully get it sorted.
