I didn't say to "hide" the pain. Am pointing out that they need her to parent them and comfort them. Seeing a mom cry is scary to some kids. OTHER LBSers, not PM, have at times leaned hard on their kids and maybe too hard. I also post for those. Sometimes the LBSer does not know it, but sometimes I think they do it to manipulate the WAS, and sometimes it's just selfish or weak, but that's why I found the Clarkson song so moving and scary and in some cases, spot on.
Of course PM isn't walking around in happy land now. But she DOES have to do some real reassuring of her kids. I stand by that. Her kids are young ones. They are afraid. And hurt. They may well "want their mommy" to make THEM feel better. That's all.
PM, I agree with karen about how I feel when I read your posts. I get the same gut reaction about your h. My first take on it is always that the OW must have lots of money, or your h must have ZERO common sense, and or an empty heart and mind, or some HUGE deficit IN HIM...b/c this sure ain't about you honey.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
