PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[25yearsmlc]

Yes God CAN AND WILL help you and your children through this. Remember to visualize your future as a happy one and for now, assume he's not going to be in it much BUT that you WILL STILL be happy.

Sorry about the kids pain. It just sucks. I think I posted to already about how to stress what stays the same in the kids lives. I do NOT think it's leading them on to say daddy MIGHT someday live closer to them, nor is it wrong to say you both will always love each other (in some form), and of course that you are always going to feel glad you m him b/c hey, you got THEM in your world, and what a prize!! If they ever ask why you two got m and why it did not work, maybe say "must have been M b/c God wanted us to have YOU in our lives!" even if it turns out we weren't "meant to stay together forever" (--Don't know how to word that one so ask the c, but I do know that they need to believe you see them as they are; i.e., so valued and loved by you (both, hopefully).

I find it amazing that he does not think the kids will ever get it about the OW, but that will be an interesting event. OW must wonder wth is going on but bet anything she does not yet know this condition of his. Hmmm. Well, once you are gone he'll have ALL that space he so needed...but no one to talk to about it...oh my my, PM...you are doing the right thing. Not as a tactic (but I can't think of a better one at this point) but as a move for YOU and YOURS.


Remember PM, you can GAL move forward, and keep the road home paved and smooth as well. You can do it all, IF YOU WANT TO, but you don't have to want to...so move forward, see how YOU feel and what God has in store for you. I have a really good feeling about your long term future. I really do. Did you check out the survivor stories or smartcookie's threads somewhere here?

Honey you are going to be alright. More than alright. You really are. Have faith. Rememeber if you operate in fear, you are not operating in faith. YOU CAN DO THIS. You are! God Bless your family and your parents and I hope your h finds some sort of clarity in his life soon. Even if all it does is bring him closer to your children, it'll be something good for his troubled soul, and your kids.

Try not to show the kids how much pain you are in. They need comfort FROM YOU rather than having to give it TO YOU...I know you know this but you'd be surprised how many LBSers use the kids for their pain. (Ever hear Kelly Clarkson's song "Because of You"? Hard to hear if you think of a mom doing that to her kid, but a good warning for us all as parents).

HUGS!!

J-