Divorce looming #13

[25yearsmlc]

Text or call her. It's your night with the kids, right? You were excluded from an activity on YOUR NIGHT? Is that correct? That's crappy and you've been more than accomodating of this mean spirited campaign against you and the divisive damaging effect it has to have on your children....perhaps TOO accomodating...SO plan something for this evening with the kids. (Be flexible b/c they're probably tired but might not be and she might check up on you) But it is NOT really her business whether you wanted to watch paint dry with them as it is YOUR time with them, not hers.

SO===tell her you are renting a movie (or taking them to one) or planning a game/activity and since it IS YOUR night, and you've been more than reasonable and more than fair, but to avoid problems you already bent over backwards and agreed to extend their stay already. BUT now this is unfair to you and them and you would not do this to her. She's pushing it So, she needs to bring them over or you'll go get them, whichever she prefers. You can text this if you can't speak well around her. Stay firm if she balks. Remind her, IF NEED BE, that you've been courteous and dignified and did not have to allow them to stay longer, and IF NEED BE, restate your position. Do not engage. Do not ask permission and do not overtalk. But she may react positively IF you remain calm and strong. Act as if you expect to be treated correctly. Don't be tentative or afraid. Be confident of your position and present it as reasonably as possible b/c it IS a reasonable position. VERY.

As for the prostitute, don't hang out at those types of places and it's not you who is pathetic, it's the woman for needing to earn money that way AND the men who have to pay for sex who are truly pathetic.

Good luck, and yes, HAVE something planned for the kids. I assume they'll be tired so renting or watching a movie with popcorn may be the way to go tonight. Ask them once you have them.

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