i agree with both of you. but i have been through this with him before, last year around this time.
Which I think makes it even more important for you to detach. No question about that.
He sounds like he's in the crazy fog phase. It's horrible to live with that, the debt, I've been there too and many others of us here. It sucks.
It sounds like some of your anger is that he got you sucked back in, but you're an adult and made your own decisions, the best you could at the time. I doubt he is making rational or logical decisions right now, I see our WAS usually as kind of addicts in an active addictive phase. Being angry at addicts is just unproductive. And you know you didn't cause this, and in time if he doesn't already realize that, he will. They blame us b/c they don't want to blame themselves.
I'm glad you didn't respond to the text. I don't think it will help. I always try to take the high road and detach and it makes your PMA better. Karen
