Keel-hauled, but, more time with my kids

[25yearsmlc]

Frank,

As you know, am back and all caught up on your sitch now. How'd the argument about parental alienation go, or are you still waiting?

IS the "not until fall" timeline due to another forensic appraisal or what? WTH?! And will your "From now on" earnings be used as part of the marital assets? There are ways for you to increase the AR's but again, will those count as mutually owned assets or what? Can't believe NY laws. Aren't they the ONLY ones who do this? Geez, I hate how EASY it is to divorce everywhere else and how hard it is to div THERE...wth??

Don't know how SHE does it either, b/c I know you do it all b/c you are sane and love your kids, but her anger and vitriol must be consuming her, as is her self loathing. So, despite how hard it must be for YOU, I cannot imagine how she gets through her days...

Honey don't take ANY of your son's "hero is my mom" words as anything negative about you. Good grief, it was near Mother'd Day AND it sounded to me like she was defending and explaining her choices to him and playing the victim. I tell my kids good stuff from my childhood (unless I am playing the "you have it so much easier than I did" card...very useful).

The co-dependency comment you made earlier is a real flag for many here. Gets lots of reactions. And fears. No one who knows YOU thinks you're being an ass when you refer to the Alpha Male and "no more MrNice Guy" stuff. It's the guys looking for excuses to dominate and control that scare the heck out of so many women who'd be on the streets if they had let their h's "lead" them down the road of ruin. We know you. You're fine.

Doesn't mean your words won't haunt. Loved the "see me nekked" comment! SAME FEARS we all have of ever dating OP. Naturally, we assume they'll all look & expect US to look like the Hollywood "50" y/o's on TV and NOT like the ones we actually know. Does Meryl Streep have stretch marks? Brad Pitt? This is of course, a very serious matter. FIB could run into Meryl, and her h could die. So....see?

Will talk to you soon. You're doing remarkably well.
xoxo
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