Am I doing the right thing?

[kjensen]

Hi D,
I'd say its guilt. She may be seeing the grass isn't greener..and really getting a glimpse the the mess she has made of everything... If she is having a glimpse of rality then she'll have guilt and anger at herself, but it still may be easier to project that onto you than really look inside.

My H and I talked about projecting onto others..his Ow basically said things to him and treated him the way he initially treated/spoke to me..So he has had a glimpse of reality. He has guilt. I don't know if he is truly done with OW or vice versa-she is a piece of work [high maintenance, beautiful on the outside but not the inside, possibly racist, not a good mother, needs to feel desirable..)the more I hear from him..

He is really stuck on some of the things she said to him like he's self-absorbed..(that one really bothers him), unsupportive and insensitive..all things he feels the OW is...

Just be there for your wife, be a friend, be loving and detached and GAL. You are doing great!