Anyone else been truly abandoned? I'd love to hear

[BeingMe]

My sitch was/is completely different, but I just wanted to say that your so-called H is not thinking with his brain (but, rather his what-not) and his family (you, his children and extended) are paying the price. He is infatuated with a 17 yr old girl who probably got a kick out of enticing a married 40 yr old man away from his family. Wow! Isn't she so smart ---- NOT! He, of course, has to find a way to justify it all. No matter whether you were as crazy as a coot --- he had no reason at all to turn away from the M --- he needed to deal with the R he was in first before going off with another (dare I say) woman/girl.

I am so sorry you had to go through this. You did nothing wrong. Your children did nothing wrong. Your H just couldn't believe a 17 yr old kid would actually let him 'do it' with her. And, then he wanted more. And probably having children close to OW's age made him feel guilty, and so he abandoned them too. All I would want from someone like this is back payment of alimony and child support and nothing else. His family too, can take a hike although it is up to your children if they want a R with them. They and he should be ashamed of themselves and maybe they are, deep down and that's why they can't face you. I would request from your mother that she support you in your decision to not have a R with them. Forgive them, maybe, but to have a R with these toxic people, would be unreasonable a thing to ask of you.

I wish you the best!