The thing that causes me the most anxiety these days are people in her life pushing/support her. They here story, and just keep the momentum moving for her. I know I can't control it so I shouldn't think about it, but are there any DB skills on dealing with friends/sister/etc encouraging WAW?
This is a real problem that came up in my sitch, too; in the Divorce Remedy book there's a discussion about the dangers inherent in talking out-of-school -- and they're exactly what you're seeing here: it creates momentum.
And yeah -- everyone on "your" side is going to validate and approve of you and everyone on "her" side is going to do the same. No real cure for it. Validation isn't criticism; few of us turn to our friends for "real" assessments -- one of the great values of the DB boards.
Don't assume, though, that "her" team actually approves. What I've observed in my sitch is that a number of my WAW's friends are "supporting" her. But they're also mothers. And I've heard from a half-dozen women who know us as a couple, know our children, and know WAW -- and, importantly, who like WAW -- say they "just don't get" how she can walk-away from her children. It sort of tarnishes the tribe, so to speak.
So it's not necessarily the case that your WAW's friends are "encouraging" her so much as just saying, "there, there."
