Indeed provided the brain of the WAW has not been cast in concrete.
I can tell you that my W is scared, hurt, confused, in denial, avoiding conflict and running / hiding from problems, but definitely not cold or cast in concrete.
Don't under-estimate the addictive effects of an OM on the brain. Often if the first OM does not work they go on the next. And often the WA's do such irresponsible things that they simply can't backtrack from the wayward path.
Understand and agree that a WAS can be confused and addicted.
Just objecting to the term "cast in concrete" it implies cold and unchanging, when I know that in my sitch, my W is internally torn apart and emotionally all over the place.
In many cases the end effect can be the same, but the cause is different.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
