Not sure where in the WAW script book this stuff sits, but when she talks to me and tells me some days she is conflicted and has hard days, I take it as a good sign. I just try and listen and validate, not going into things too much or too deep.
It's basically part of the self-absorption script. To someone in an affair, it is all about them and their feelings, and she's saying to you "This isn't all fun you know! This is HARD on me!" Awful, I know.
