Thanks peace, your post has meant a lot to me. You are absolutely right; if my H was in any way in his right mind and was wanting the best for our D he would get his own place close to her school. My heart breaks at the chaos and damage that has ensued; living with OW; in this situation? What is he thinking if not just about himself? Has anyone else had this situation and how did yu cope with this?

I haven't posted for a few days as I have been in turmoil and upset; things have been going completely pear shaped.

My H and I have our court hearing tomorrow for Safety Order full hearing, access and maintenance. it is going to be horrible.
my h wants to come back into the house two nights a week, now it is down to one. i have said that it is not appropriate that he comes back here. he has said that unless he gets this he will move back into the house full time.

why? why would he want to? the simple fact is that our d7 would be subjected to what is going on between us (my h wont even look at me let alone talk to me, except if it relates to d)and she would also be completely confused. he has left me, left the marriage, left the home and is living with his lover yet still expects to be able to move back in here. i want to really fight this. i feel its so wrong. how is our d expected to move into the new reality that her father has created if she is given confusing signals? this is all about my h wanting control and power over our d.
my L asked his L whether the issue was putting our d to sleep and taking her to school in the morning. he confirmed that my h has no interest in being in the house except for our d. that hurts. i have given ten years of my life to this man and to our family. it hurts that i have been deleted yet he is prepared to fight irrationally for our d.i haven't stopped him seeing her at any time except when his behaviour has been abusive.

i also received a call from our d's headmaster of her school friday morn. our d's teacher found a one page piece of creative writing in her english journal, in her handwriting, that was sexually explicit, extremely so for a seven year old.

i am at a loss to understand where this has come from. there were no drawings or names mentioned.

i need your help here everyone.my little girl has shown signs of distress; crying and saying she cant take it any more, she wants to die, she wants to have a normal family, not a half and half family.

my heart is breaking. i need to get her professional help now.
i am at a loss to understand why this has happened to all of our lives.

my h has become an alien to me; wants nothing to do with me on any level. i have had to change my entire life to protect and care for our d; put up with the humiliation of being slandered in our community,my h living with an employee of his country having to take two orders out on my h for unreasonable behaviour and threat.

and now my d suffering like this......

thanks for reading everyone.....

the scary thing is this; if it is mlc then at least i can put it in the category that he has flipped it. but if he is in his rational mind? could he be that cruel? surely this has to be a crisis. his company is folding, he is living in four different places.....

i am a good person, i pray and put my trust in god, i try and treat people how i want to be treated. i have loved my h even through our difficulties, i have believed in my marriage.i love my d more than anything in the world.

he doesnt want his old life, just parts of it in his new life. the part that he doesnt want from his old life is me......i have to be gotten rid of and deleted at all costs. yet doing that affects our d......