You will feel so much bettter, stronger, more rational, more f ocused when you DROP THE ROPE. We all know it is hard and that it feels like you are giving up and that he wins. He does not win , he loses it all. He will realise it, as soon as he sees the woman he married. Right now you not that person. Your needy and miserable.
I had an A, my H stayed and tried to fix manrriage, I did to a certin point but not enough. My H stopped chasing, crying and he turneed away. That stopped me in my tracks. Now I am the LBS.
By dropping the rope , you stop thinkimh about waht he is doing or doing it with. Try the feeling of indifference. Everyonr here will tell you to GAL and I was tired of hearing it BUT they were right. You esteem is shot at the moment. You need to rebuild.
What can you do with the store ? Do you need him involved? Can you run it ?.
i am presently running 3 companies, I have sole responsibility of children and manage 3 commercial properties and 10 residential. The biggest company was H and specialised. He has walked away and washed his hands. I would never of believed it, but I can do it ( for a while ) I also engineered myself into this position , while H focused on his new sex life.
You need to take the emotion out of this and make unemotiomnl decisions. Yes this hurts like hell but its not likely to go away if you continue to do waht you are doing.
