GETTING UN'STUCK'

[confusedinpa]

You know, ironically, at this point (5 weeks since my WAW moved out), I would take being roommates again.

I know how hard it is to try and get a life while we were together with kids (our age demographics are very similar - just check the sig).

I started with going to the gym. I would just take my boys as there was "babysitting" there for just $1/kid. One time I went to the gym when she was out shopping with the kids (part of my 180 as normally we would have all gone shopping together). That was the time I wasn't in the mood to deal with situation so I wound up calling my buddy after the gym to grab a beer. She acted extremely jealous when I did get home (she even had dinner waiting for me that nite). I did feel bad because I missed dinner with the boys.

Then I went out for beer and wings with friends.

Another time I took the boys with me to visit a friend (who also had kids) that I hadn't seen in years. (The infamous CT trip if you remember from my situation). That was the trip that I left for with the boys the morning after I gave her the "I love her enough that I want her to feel free to do what she wanted. If she wanted to leave, I wasn't going to stand in her way".

I still question if that was the right move, but I have to remind myself that she had scheduled a meeting for us for a real estate agent for us to sell the house so we could split up. I really made the call that it was best to at least keep the house (the only home my 2 boys knew) to offer some stability if she and I were really going to be separated.

Anyway, sorry for the tangent, it is hard to get a life when in the same house with young kids, but it is possible. It's just that getting a life may include taking your kids with you. I interpretted getting a life as doing things without the spouse, whether it was with the kids or not. Not sure if that was right, but that was what I did.

But then again, what do I know. My wife left me 5 weeks ago and I'm still a mess with very little hope.

Hope you are at least able to enjoy the holiday weekend.