I tried the same initially, and sent pics and whatnot. But in the end I just could not get *over* the fact they accepted what he did, considering she was a RELATIVE and her age. I tried to put myself in their position - I do have two sons, my oldest is 17 this year - and I realised nope, I wouldnt have accepted it from my boys. I would not have tried to brush that off; I'd have been furious and done everything to put an end to a travesty like that happening in my family. I dont respect the fact they didnt do more. Although true he lied and carried on, his actions demonstrated what was REALLY going on. When they found out he had her here, they actually took her around town and what not! their excuse relayed to my mother from his brother was that "my mother wanted to meet her great grand daughter" (yes thats right, tho they began their affair when she was just 17, she already had a three year old child, and bought her out here with her.) I dont think thats much of an excuse; MY kids are her grandkids what about them?

Things further deteriorated when the IL's went over to the UK and visited with them, and it was relayed to my mother (once again thru the BIL) that after seeing them all and speaking to them all they decided that I was 'crazy' and that it 'hadn't happened like that she exaggerated everything'. thats certainly what the EX said all along. but again: his actions belied that and they're not stupid people. so after that, I butaned the relationship for good, telling them all via email to the BIL to never ever so much as look in my direction ever again. Im not sorry for that and never will be.

My daughter (16 this year) has seen them a couple of times at the mall and smiled at them but kept walking. I saw them once a few weeks ago - I walked past them. 20 years I was n their family and they should have chosen MY CHILDREN over the ex and their rotten granddaughter (OW.) after all, they are in the UK now, whereas my kids are HERE. I understand what they wanted to happen - to have a relationship with my children outside of me altogether - they made that clear with the birthday card to daughter last year. They are dreamin.

When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.