I think it's wise to pick your battles and not sweat the small stuff. Looking back, most of it was definately small stuff...and it was just plain stupid to get worked up over stuff that, in the scheme of things, didn't mean sh!t.
We are all worthy of value, respect, and compassion...and we have to give these things to ourselves as well as to others.
It's a damn shame that we have to go through this kind of crap before we learn the things that we do...wish I had known this stuff beforehand...I could have made things so wonderful for my family and avoided hurting those that I cared about the most.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
I hear you antlers. I didn't sweat any stuff which was wrong and then started sweating everything once I tried to change which was also wrong. Now I'm finding a pretty good balance I guess. The good thing is that no matter what happens with W and me...I'm better in the long run for all of this. I know more now about how to have a healthy relationship than I ever did and I have to thank W for that. If she hadn't dropped the bomb on me I don't know if I ever would have known what I was doing and had the knowledge and incentive to work on it. Even though W has hurt me more than I think anyone ever has before....I am a better man now because of it.
One of the defining moments....one of them. Tired of feeling sorry for myself during this and trying to embrace it for the good it can/is doing. Not to say that that's easy....it's not. There are days when it really just sucks...but you push through them and find your happy place and move on. Just keep moving forward....
Also, the IC says he thinks she is bipolar off of the times he talked to her and how her moods and reactions go...but he couldn't be sure unless he specifically worked with her more...just wanted to make me aware of it as a possibility.
I wonder if a 50/50 custody split is wise if she is bi-polar. Just a thought.
Trust me Nut, I have been thinking of that. There are so many different things to take into account in the whole situation and for a lot of them I have no idea what the best thing to do is. The whole thing is such a struggle. Trying to think what is best for me, what is best for D3, even what is best for W....and trying to find some common ground between them all or even answers to them all. It's honestly pretty draining and depressing.
