Thanks guys for your responses. I'm glad I have not done too much damage, its my impatience that is my biggest problem, so I must try and take this one day at a time.
For my PMA and GAL'ing I have been asked to become the school Treasurer which would get me engrossed into the school finances and is a very responsible role within the school. I have also been asked to become a member of the PTA to offer views and advice. This is an offer I am going to accept after this weeks half-term.
I am enjoying my time with the children, and I am doing my best to anticipate their needs. I must admit though, any excuse my W has to critisise anything I do, she does with regularity in regard to anything, including the children.
I find it difficult to believe you can be friends with a S that has dumped you. Friends would not dump on you if this was the case, I believe it is a form of cake-eating in case it does not work out with OP. It does not mean your S would come back to you, but it gives them an option. I would try and treat my stbx as a friendly neighbour which I read somewhere.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years