I have heard all those references to being a single mum...
IMO-if you're going to get anywhere here -you're going to have to get "your" head around being a "single dad"...even if that's just a state of mind for now...
And you've gone a long way towards that -clearly though you've fallen into a shallow crevasse...it's not so deep though...
Karen gave you some really good pointers up-thread...stop, breathe, look at your glass... "MAKE" it over half full with your achievements...if you can't right now, make a plan to nudge that feeling up...ok you reported that you were now involved with the PTA...what are you doing? Mark, if you're just waiting for them to ask you to do something then you're missing a trick -this is the most obvious and easiest way of you offering yourself out to your community -is there anything you can be proactive about? If, when you do, you will be amazed about the good feelings and confidence that follows...
What have you volunteered for? Mark, make sure you're in the thick of it...for now this is about you and your kids...! Nothing to do with your W - its not to impress her or get brownie points with her...its to do with getting brownie points for you - into your Brownie Point Bank Account -for yourself... all yours!!! And your kids will benefit by association!!!
Mark - I suggested to you to get involved in the PTA cos that's what I have done and I found it very helpful - in making sure that I was still a major part of my S's school life - even though my W considers herself to be "a single mum". The "school gate" is an important place to be...but you have to carry that off with honour and dignity - it also helps you rub along with the other folks there...and keeps you live in their minds when they think of your kids...
Mark, yes, you did f*ck up...back to the Gucci plan...don't over-think it...
Stay cool, stay collected, neediness is NOT ALLOWED!!!
Get something to concentrate on....other than your W!!!
Best - GFI! (aka Simon)
Mark -if you want to find me on FB I'm easy - find Kalni
