It seems like I'm finally getting this detachment thing. I've been thinking about this decoupling of the finances thing and could use some input here. When we were together, we had acquired some joint debt which was put on her cards. When W left I had agreed to pay my half of our joint debt. Of course, this was well before I found out about the A. Regardless of what ultimately happens with us, I don't have a problem paying my half of the debt. I could move this over to one of my account which would totally separate us financially. I feel like this gives her more financial freedom and encourages the separation. The other part of me wants to stop paying altogether until we are either divorced or reconciled, but I think that comes across as controlling.
