No contact with ow at all and he said he is happy to be out of that situation.
Only by the grace of God could it be the way it is now. We have been through a lot over the years and I think we are closer than ever. I can tell him a lot of things--my fears, thoughts during the time he was gone and how I still have a little bit of doubt about ow. He told me not to worry it is over, God delivered him out of the mess and he is glad.
So to those of you who are still battling this, there is hope but be still, love from afar and have faith and pray. God does things is His timing, not ours.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
It is wonderful to hear he is home, thanks be to God....I am going to be still and pray as you said. Mine is a mess with our daughter he did somethng awful to her and I am praying he will contact her soon and apologize to her. She is heart broken over it... God bless you and your husband and family...
I'm not one to throw up my hands and proclaim 'God's will' is done. His 'will' has always been a mystery to me. I do believe regardless of the circumstances behind our S's return, forgiveness on the LBS's part would have to be one of the biggest prerequisites. It takes a good person with good moral character to forgive what our WAS's have done to us. I commend MWG on that point and wish her good luck.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
Still no contact with ow at all. I mention one day that I had read it takes over 18 months to get over the other person and he said he did not think it took that long at all. I did not question, just wanted to hear what he had to say. I am not worried about it and he does not give me reason to worry.
I am so truly thankful that things are moving forward.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
hello MWG, you dont know me but wow some controversy over your thread....
just from personal observations from what I have read 1) I do understand the genuine concern from others, it is well meant therefore very welcome even if the words arent... we all deserve to have those who caution us and wish the best for us and FEAR for us... and 2) it seems to me, from the kind of lady you are, that you are one who is doing this for you, not for him - so even if it APPEARS you have been very mistreated and such, this is your choice bc you have a very deep, very personal faith; your to be commended on it; its easy to fear for someone, but you must respect their faith and personal beliefs - and it doesnt seem to me your desperately needy or anything, but simply living in your personal power.
its shockingly hard to forgive someone who has been consistently bad behaved and done wrong by you many times but on the other hand, its also down to who the two people are, and I think, in your mind and heart, you felt your dear H needed to be saved from a bad situation and you love him so much you wont give up on your attempts to SAVE him from that bad situation... and theres nothing wrong with it, either bc even if it DOES all go pear shaped once again - are you living by who you are and your faith and doing what feels right for you??? yes. therefore there are NO MISTAKES TO BE MADE. its not stupid, its a deep personal strong choice.
i think given the person you seem to be, you are self assured in your own heart and mind that, as long as you try your very hardest and do your very best at all times, then YOU will be ok, with yourself and with God, and feel peaceful. I think thats what people who fear for you, are missing: your doing it for you and this is right for you, so you can be at peace in who you are. am i right?
I do commend you. my own sitch is far more dire than yours, with no contact etc. but I am very christian and like you, i beleive in saving someone, if you can do so - I think denying yourself and them the chance - its not 'wrong' for everyone, but it is for me just bc of who i am and how i was raised thats all. at the end of the day you need to be able to sleep peacefully at night knowing you were true to YOU and your IDEALS and beliefs... therefore I really have no fear for you, even if it fails; YOU wont fail. hes a lucky man. you are very strong. you'll cope no matter what.
May all your faith pay off for you and you get everything you have prayed for, for so long. Such faith is to be rewarded commended and there IS this: god never gives you too much to bear. and every winter is followed by a spring. May it be your spring, now
xoxoxoxo blessings
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
MWG I am so happy for you and your family. Just Keep trusting in GOD and he will take care of the rest. I hope and pray one day I will get to post the same great news as you. Right now, I am just praying for God's Will to be done. For only GOD knows what is best.
