Please see the last post by me on the above link before it was locked as I would like some feedback.
I have unfortunately backslid to day as I had a conversation with my W this morning which went badly.
Basically, I asked her if she was seeing somebody and she asked me the same. We both denied any OP and then my W accused me of snooping because I questioned her on something that I should not have questioned her on. She/I is/am still seeing me as pursuing and I am not detaching properly.
She said she is a single mother and can do whatever she wants whenever she wants. She said she cares about me but we must stay out of each others business particularly if we want to be friends.
I popped around to the house to say hello to the children. My W said I just cannot turn up like this as this is not part of our agreed visitation times. As we do not have anything official in writing this is merely a verbal agreement. I validated her and said I would call in future if I was going to pop in.
She then complained about the number of things she has to do in the house. Instead of me ignoring it I stupidly offered to cut the grass for her if she wanted me to. She said no I can do theses things myself and said I never offer it is always her suggesting it.
I have fallen into the needy trap, I have pursued and I feel I have undone any small progress I might have taken.
Am I back to square one again?
Last edited by markhaving probs; 05/23/0905:56 PM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
