he is back, i think

[Puppy Dog Tails]

so is this where i "give up"

is this where i throw in the towel . . .

No, you don't give up, but you DO drop the rope.

Have you read in DR/DB about "dropping the rope?" It's NOT giving up, but it is rather a tactic to regain your own emotional health, and just MAYBE it gets a response from the wayward husband.

Puppy