I seem to never have time anymore.H has been laid off and I have been tryin to make sure he doesn't go back. Seems to be ok as of yet. Don't want him to go backwards.
Afraid, How are you and the children doing? What do you mean you don't want him to return to work?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I see I haven't been back. Boy time gets away. Alot has happened since my last post.I meant back into depression not work. Anyway he has been back about a month. Since the beginning of the year my h was laid off, my son broke his thumb, and then the worst my mom passed away on St. Patrick's Day. Hopefully things are starting to turn around. This has been one heck of a year so far.
I was worried about my H because he was and still at times angry. The longer he was home (3 months) the worse it started to get. He doesn't know how long he will be working, so at times he gets in the same mode, but at least he is not sleeping and laying around. It was like a flashback.
I believe my mom is still watching out for me. It was 1 month to the day she passed he was called back for work. I think I have my own personal angel. I have to believe in something positive. I have turned myself around for the most part in my thinking.
I do have my work cut out now my dad is alone for the first time in almost 50 years. I am off work for the summer unless the find work in another dept. so I will be able to spend time with him. It is hard since he lives 45 mins away and still having 3 kids at home.
I hope I will have more time to check in and will be back soon.
Afraid, I'm very, very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I'm sure your father is very lost right now. Do you know if he has friends in the area that could check in on him when you are unable to be there w/him? They were married a very long time and it's going to take a lot of time for him to adjust to your mother being gone. I am glad he has you and the grandchildren to focus on this summer. Your visits will definitely help him. Give him plenty of space and time and if he wants to talk, listen and validate.
About your h, I'm surprised he's back, but his emotions will run high. Keep your expectations at zero and realize it's not about you, but about him and what he needs to do to heal himself. Depression in men is different than in women. Just give him a wide berth and let him lash out and argue w/himself.
As for you, yes, you do have a guardian angel watching over you. Your mother is there to listen and comfort you each and every day. Talk to her, for talking to her will bring you great comfort.
Please take care of yourself. Come back when you can to let us know how you and your family are doing. My thoughts and prayers are w/you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Afraid: Please accept my sincerest condolences over the loss of your mother. I lost my brother last month, so I know how you feel.
(((hugs)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am not so sure he is back, but you know the signs better than I do. He is doing okay for the most part. It is not like it was before. Since he went back to work he has been better- not as much time on his hands. I don't know where he would be if he stayed off longer, since I could see him moving into depression or feeling no self worth.
We have been getting along fine, for the most part.
Afraid, Work is helping to channel some of the energy and focus for him and an environmental change. He feels like he is contributing to the family right now. That's good. Is he taking ADs?
What about you? How are you really holding up? You are such a strong woman, but there has to be a time when you need some space for yourself. Are you taking some me time when you can?
Thinking of you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
When did he last have his thyroid checked? His meds may need to be adjusted.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
