It has been 3 weeks since H and I separated

[ALJ]

Kalni, I dont think my husband has any plans on coming back to New York to live. The original plan before he turned into that "cold blooded monster" was for him to move down south and get situated with his entertainment company, then me and the kids would move down there with him. He has signed a one year lease on an apartment down there. I know he will be coming to back up here for his sisters 30th birthday but I dont know how long he is visiting.

The kids started asking questions about a week after he left. They ask "when is daddy coming home?" or "why did daddy take that furniture with him?" I don't think they know what is going on. He talked to them right before he left that night and told them he was going away for work for awhile but would be back soon. After he put the kids in bed and was finishing packing up his belongings, he sat down and started crying. I sat down next to him and put my arm around him but he didnt put his arm around me or get close to me. I know he was crying because he was leaving the kids and it didnt have anything to do with leaving me.

I wonder if he is happy with his decision now. Maybe somewhere down the line we will get to talk about our relationship and where it is going. He will have to be the one to bring it up though. I just have to be patient but it is not going to be easy because it seems as though he has left our relationship in limbo or like everyting is on hold until he hopefully comes to his senses.

How is your sitch going with your H? I see in your signature line that you are depressed even though your H wants to come back. Are you having second thoughts about your relationship with your H? How are your kids handling things?