Trying to detach from the madness!

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I ran into my old IC at the market...small town! We chatted and she asked how things were. I told her they were about the same. I told her about the wedding and what I should do. She felt that for MY emotional health that I shouldn't go. She said I should say something like:

I appreciate the invitation and I'm sorry I won't be attending. I wish you all the best.

If she pushes say:

Im sure you understand what a difficult time this has been. I'm happy for you on your wedding day, but weddings bring up a lot of sadness for my own situation right now.

IC felt that being honest is good. Let her deal with her son. If I stuff my emotional feelings and it turns out to be a disaster day, it will take me days to recover.

So I had a mini session in the grocery store...nice.