Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

Well, the kids are out of town for the long weekend...it was my weekend to have them, and I'm off work for 3 days. Kinda strugglin' this morning. I've gone on a 10 mile bike ride and trimmed all the hedges in my flower beds today already. There's lots of work to do on and around the house...enough to keep me occupied. I miss my kids though. I really feel OK a lot of the time, but sometimes I get kinda down, and it's disappointing. I'm kinda there this morning. Anyway, I keep going back to what Coach said...


Antlers wrote "Please tell me just what it entails to 'drop the rope'?"


Coach said "Imagine pulling with all your might on a rope tied to a elephant's leg that doesn't want to move. Tension on the rope, the elephant's getting torqued, and you are wasting all your energy and getting no results. The elephant just ain't moving. So why keep pulling on the rope?
The goal is to get the elephant to move. Release all the tension between you and the elephant. Catch your breathe and try something different. The elephant is not going to move just because you are trying with all your strength, want it to and would love it to. The elephant moves when it wants to. Drop the rope. Do something for yourself and see if the elephant gets interested enough to check it out. Be a elephant whisperer :D!
You do what is healthy and productive for you.
Here is a list to start on:"


Antlers wrote "I so much want to be strong, secure, powerful, assertive, and ambitious again."


And then his signature line say a lot too - "Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be."


I'm struggling this morning, but I'm gonna do the best I can anyway.