The adventure continues--the saga goes on

[AFWAW]

I knew this was going to happen

I didn't--I fully expected a quiet evening at home by myself. What else should I expect?

I did and still do not want you to get any false hope.

I went into this with no expectations and came out having a good time. My hope is still dashed at this point. I'm acting as if we are still getting divorced however as angry as this woman can be it is curious how she acted last night.

Again, and yes I repeat myself, your goal is the care of your D. Nothing is more important and nothing more visible to your wife than how you care for D (a good idea to get SS involved with family activities if you can, if this was a concern of your W, and you owe it to SS if you were his dad for 15+)

D was spending the night at a friends. SS lives in another state. I'm taking good care of my D.

If you could identify and expose the OM it would help you and don't get caught up in the "fear" trap of she will be ticked...she will but your marriage will survive her anger...not the affair. She will not get an Art 15 for the affair although she better do what her CC tells her if she gets an LoC/LoR.

Still working on this one. My friend's friend should be back this week and can narrow it down. I will probably first verify that he is "visiting" my wife and then call his wife--I'll just look up the name on the global.

A good time for you to work on your detachment...the OM will probably be back Sun/Mon...your cycle will start again

Yeah, I'm waiting for it to hit again. Wife has my D Sun & Mon so while OM may be back he won't be w/ my wife.

You do not want this to turn into a relationship where she is sleeping/living with OM (the threat to file for divorce is a cover for her to justify the A at work if she gets caught brought on by her talk with her mother, nothing else) and having lunch with you and acting like you both are happy with this lifestyle.

Oh, I won't do this. She knows I'm at the end of my rope and I'm not sure exactly why she wanted to get together but she knows I won't go on much longer like this.

your W caused it with the affairs and moving out to continue this affair...there is no other reason for her to move out other than to have a place to meet OM without you and D knowing about it.

And I keep on telling myself this.

Do not get your hopes up...sounds like your thoughts are in the right place right now.

Yeah, my hopes aren't up at all at this point. I'm trying to stay mentally grounded. I still feel as if we are getting a divorce.

Thanks for your thoughts.